The Buddy System
Dylan Thomas Cummings, 17 hours old
It's been a busy holiday season. And, as of one week ago today, we have a new little buddy in our family! Dylan Thomas Cummings, arrived Jan 6, 2015.
Dylan (who wasn't named Dylan then as his parents, Lexi and Ryan, had to meet their new babe to name him) had been scheduled to arrive more than a week earlier, Dec. 22nd, by cesarean. So, instead of celebrating the holidays in Westhampton Beach, as originally planned, we all--when I say all, I mean our immediate family: me, Curtis, Lexi, Ryan, Max, Michelle, Bennett along with Curtis's brother Paul, sis-in-law Valarie and Nephew Will, along with Ryan's family--changed plans. We all met up in the city to celebrate together as we waited for the new baby. Even after Dylan fooled us all by flipping around and pointing down, we all stayed in the city so we could be close by. Sure it was cramped and crowded, but no one wanted to leave. We all wanted to be together. To support Lexi and Ryan, to be on hand, to lend a hand. Sure, Lexi and Ryan would have been fine on their own, they would have managed. But "fine" and "managed" isn't our way. We are all about The Buddy System.
While we waited for Mr. Dylan to make his appearance, we had another little buddy to entertain us... Bennett, Dylan's cousin.
At 16 months, Bennett did an excellent job of keeping us entertained. In turn,we buddied up to entertain him.
Bennett taught Bapak Curtis to read!
Bennett is mighty handy with the Iphone
When, finally--9 days past his due date--Dylan's doctors and parents it was a time to give him a little boost and induce labor, we all went to the hospital to wait for his arrival.
No one wanted to wait alone, or to think of anyone else waiting alone, or to be left out. We like having a buddy.
Even though there wasn't a thing we could do, we sat outside, waiting, watching our clocks...
Now, a week after Dylan's birth, I'm staying close to Ryan and Lexi to help them get used to being parents, to lend a hand, support, to share the load. Not that they need it. They'll all do just fine without me. But isn't it easier not having to go it alone???
“Misery—and JOY—love company! ”
Along with celebrating this brand new life, we celebrate a brand new year. The holiday decorations are packed away. Dylan's home. The Party's over, it's time to get back to it. And, for many of us, along with the new years comes resolve to do new things, find new resolves, or renew commitment to established routines. Which isn't always so easy....
A note from motivational writer & speaker Kate Northrup in her Jan. 12th post, "Why it's Sometimes Great to Follow" reminded me why The Buddy System is so effective:
“When it comes to the things in life we may have a little resistance around (like exercise and money, for example), we can tend to fall off track if we don’t have a guide...
...Ask anyone what they struggle with the most regarding anything, and chances are pretty good they’ll tell you that they tend to fall of the wagon.
Sometimes It Feels Good to Follow
When I think about the times I did NOT fall of the wagon in my life, it was when I was following some sort of a program. As much as I’m a leader and have learned a lot of things, it feels great when someone else who has some degree of mastery tells me what to do in an area where I struggle.
While I would never recommend blind adherence, following a program allows us to:
1. Relax, knowing that someone else is giving us support in this one area.
2. Stay accountable.
3. Reduce the number of decisions we make on a daily basis and therefore save our limited decision-making energy for things that either only we can decide or things that are really high leverage decisions in our life.
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Dylan's Got his Game Hat on!
So come on, 2015 is 2 weeks gone; let's get into the game!
Grab a buddy and commit to doing it together.
If you don't have a buddy handy to partner with, sign up for a class.
Sign up! Show up! Commit to a NO EXCUSES policy.
Let's get on with the Next Together!
The Buddy System Playlist:
- My Buddy and Me (Commercial)
- My Buddy, sung by Nancy Sinatra
- Your Nobody Till Somebody Loves You, sung by Dean Martin